Love You Can Count On


This summer filled with numerous celebrations of wedding vows to love one another has brought much joy and prayers for the newlyweds. This also causes reflection on the various circumstances, behaviors, attitudes that tempt people to give up on the life-long love covenant made between the couple and God. After years of aiding to strengthen relationships, it is clear that a time may come when couples feel that the love they can count on has somehow failed them. Although I John says “…since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another” harden hearts often forget what love is and how to love. Mark 8:17-18 points out that an inability/unwillingness to remember, see, hear, understand or perceive are signs of a hardened heart. Additionally, the dictionary definition of hardened describes behavior that is insensitive, unfeeling, and unyielding. These biblical and dictionary depictions reflect couples who feel that the love they can count on has failed. They also reveal that a hard heart is both a marital threat and spiritual warning. However, the warning is not so much about sin as much as it is about seeking and surrendering to God’s word and Holy Spirit. Thankfully, there is no need to give up. With God (who is LOVE. I Jn 4:8), all things are possible (Mt 19:26). Even couples in the most painful, difficult situations can receive restoration by turning to God.

First, it is important to remember “GOD IS LOVE” because when we have a sense of Love, of God, His spirit can help us to act in such a way that greater love is returned to us. Secondly, seek to know and understand God more, so that the washing and renewing of the mind with the word can restore a forgiving, accepting and rejuvenated heart. God loves us so much he desires to forgive, restore and accept us. Love forgives, Love restores, Love accepts. “…Since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another”. Thirdly, Jesus said in (Mk 12:30-31) that there is no commandment greater than to love God and the second is to love our neighbors as ourselves. Jesus Christ, reminds us not to stray from the truth of God’s love and to live together peacefully as much as possible so as not to lead anyone else to wander away. This is the regenerative power of love, which unreservedly holds a desire for forgiveness, acceptance and righteousness.

We can always count on God to love us. He is consistently, presently ready to forgive and accept those who believe. Love is patient and kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (I Cor 13:4-7) This is the word of God that can keep our hearts sensitive and yielded with minds that are able see, hear, understand, perceive and willing to remember love. This is love you can count on. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another and “…not grow weary in well doing” (Gal 6:9).

Yours in Christ

Rev. Vonzenia Crigler


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